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What Are You Avoiding?

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“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable” R.D. Laing.

A while back I received a card from a former coach of mine.  She congratulated me on some exciting things that were happening in my business. Her card referred to a time in one of our sessions when she asked me why I thought so many things were falling into place.  It seemed to me it was because I had been willing to do some hard things I’d been avoiding.

I said, “Whenever I do something hard and scary, something BIG always happens.”

There it was . . . my truth . . . right there in black and white staring me in the face. Read More→

What, Lassie? Has Someone Fallen In the Well?

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“Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free.” 
 Shannon L. Alder

 

If you fell into a well what would you do? 

Would you make a list of all the things that need to get done to get out of the well? 

“Let’s see, I need to yell and find someone to help. Then I need to tell them to get a ladder or a rope.  But wait, they need to call my family and tell them where I am.  My family will never think to look in the well.  But why did I fall in here?  Is this a message from God? Is this like a metaphor for what I’m doing in my life?  About how I keep falling into holes and getting off task.  Gosh this is going to make a great blog post.  I wonder what the title should be? “

NO . . . you wouldn’t do this.  You would yell for help.  End of story!  You would do the next right thing . . . Which is to get out of the fickin’ frackin’ well!

We get stuck all the time.  We get stuck when we don’t know how to get more clients.  We get stuck when we can’t get our butts to the gym.  We get stuck when we can’t figure out how to parent our kids when they are driving us crazy.  Then when we’re stuck we often sit and THINK ABOUT HOW TO GET UNSTUCK!

How do I know this?  Because I do this . . . If I’m not paying attention I will make plan to make plan to get unstuck. 

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Sometimes You Need To Be Thumped!

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” 
― Anaïs Nin

I’ve been intrigued with Shitake mushroom for a while now. 

Actually I’ve been intrigued about something I heard from a grower of these fungi.   He told me that to make shitakes produce better fruit, you need to whack them with a stick.

What? 

It’s true, shitakes grown better when they are given a thump.  They yield better when they are agitated and made uncomfortable!  Isn’t that the coolest thing!

In truth . . . that’s what I do for my clients.  I give my clients a big ole thump (or kick in the “but”) to get them moving. 

Now Back to Mushrooms

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Playing the Blame Game

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“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

Dr. Robert Anthony

  • “It’s not my fault.”
  • “The down-turned economy has made it practically impossible to grow my business.”
  • “My boss is just always on my back.  She is watching over my shoulder and I can’t get anything done.”
  • “My staff just will not take initiative.  I can’t meet my goals for the department because they are not pulling their weight.”

We love to blame others.  We easily see how other’s behaviors and circumstances are to blame for us not doing or having the outcomes that we want or need. We take ourselves off the hook by blaming others.  But is playing the blame game really helping us?

No.  It is hurting us.  But how? 

Peter Bregman, the author of 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done and Point B: A Short Guide to Leading a Big Change Has some thoughts on this. 

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What is Staying Stuck Costing You?

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                                                        “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left,and could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.’”

 Erma Bombeck

I know you know this.  Every day you delay taking action on the things you need and want to do, is a day you will never get back.

But did you also know you are losing WAY more than that?

You are losing money, time, health, self-respect, your reputation and maybe even your mind!  What if you could put an actual dollar figure on these items . . . would that get your attention?  Read More→

How to Write a To Do List

Ah, the “To Do” list: a tried and true from of self-organization for millennia. We can only imagine the Pharaohs of ancient Egypt carving elaborate hieroglyphics to remind themselves to feed the sacred cat and build the pyramids.

But not all To Do Lists are created equal.

photo credit: john.schultz via photopin cc

photo credit: john.schultz via photopin cc

How do you know what makes your own list effective?

As it turns out, there are some tips and practices that will help stay on track and organized and keep you motivated.

As I researched this topic I found countless websites that declare the best way to write a To Do List. You can see them here, and here, and here… I could honestly go on forever. After reading and re-reading all of these resources, and more, I’ve distilled the information down to a few key points.

  1. Know how you work. You can write all the To Do Lists you want but if you don’t use them they aren’t effective. Only you know the way you work. If you like having an hourly schedule with every single thing mapped out for your day, do that. If you prefer to know the top 5 things that need to be accomplished, do that. There are no actual rules.
  2. Understand the psychology. Part of the reason that To Do Lists work for us is because we get actual gratification every time we check off a task. Did you know you also get satisfaction for simply writing down the tasks to begin with? Yes, in fact, without completing a single item that you need to accomplish you are already motivating yourself to do them by putting them down on paper. They finally become real rather than concepts.
  3. Maximize your morning. It is true that not everyone is a morning person but mornings can be both the most productive time of day and the most distracting. If you work in an office environment you may find that your first two hours are spent making coffee, talking with co-workers about their evenings, and checking emails from the night before. Suddenly you realize that you haven’t actually accomplished anything and it is nearly lunchtime. Don’t sacrifice this time and use it to get focused and motivated.

Are you ready to kick your buts today? Get started with your To Do List and you’ll be surprised what you can accomplish! 

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Join or start Accountability Group: How Culpability Can Help You Stay on Track

I firmly believe that whSuccessen you have a plan to do something big you need to share it with anyone who will listen.  This isn’t about bragging or boasting but it is about accountability. The more people you tell about your project or plan the more disappointed they will be if it doesn’t happen. You’ve given yourself one more reason to finish what you’ve started.  

Then I learned about Accountability Groups. There are a lot of potential applications and you find lots of resources online, but in my line of business they can be used for entrepreneurs, freelancers, or small business professionals together and create a network of accountability. (I always have at least one accountability group going for myself at all times.)

The rules are fluid. Accountability groups (also called MasterMind groups) can be as few as two people and as many as you could possibly imagine. They should be exclusive in that only people you know who are dedicated to making a difference in their own lives and potentially the lives of others should be invited.

The group should be made up of individuals who will provide honest feedback as part of the discussions and you should all be able to trust one another. Trust takes time to build but you want to have a good gut feeling that all the people in your group are trustworthy.  

Most importantly, an accountability group needs to be consistent and committed. The whole intention of the meetings is to encourage everyone to finish what they started so only dropping in when it is convenient is exactly the opposite of the process.

There are other things your group should be as well. It should be a fun place to get together and bounce ideas off of other professionals. It should challenge you to live up to your own goals so you don’t disappoint the other members of your group. Working with the right group of people can help you grow your business and stay organized and on track. It can enhance your life as well, giving you an opportunity to share your thoughts and feelings with like-minded people.

Look in your area for groups that are already in place designed to help people like you achieve their goals. If you don’t find one, start one. Talk to other small business owners and people who work for themselves and pitch the idea of getting together. You can talk about your individual goals and provide encouragement for each other throughout the process. Imagine the celebrations as each of you accomplish what you set out to do! 

email-but-off-iconIf you want another way to motivate yourself, throughout the month of August I am offering my “Work Your But Off!” program for free. If you “Like!” my Facebook page before August 31st, 2013 you will be signed up to receive the program direct to your email for 30 days! Be sure to tell your friends, co-workers, and anyone you meet at the coffee shop.

For more ideas on motivating yourself or coaching to keep you on the right track, contact me today!