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Smart People Let Their Minds Wander

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“Live in the moment.”  “Get your head out of the clouds and put your feet on the ground.”  “Just the facts, ma’am.”  “QUIT DAYDREAMING and get to work!”

I have a hard time living in the moment.  I seem to always be reliving the past or fantasizing about the things I want to do/say/be in the future.  But try as I might to sit and meditate and “be here now,” my mind continues to wander. This is a real challenge when there are so many things that I believe need to get done.  So I continue to try and whip myself into shape, get my head out of the clouds and do the work. 

But then, another metaphorical squirrel crosses my path or an idea that is worth chasing appears and I’m off once again, daydreaming about the “what if.” 

Imagine how happy I was when I learned that this mind-wandering or daydreaming that I seem to do so often is now being shown to be a good thing! Read More→

What Are You Avoiding?

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“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable” R.D. Laing.

A while back I received a card from a former coach of mine.  She congratulated me on some exciting things that were happening in my business. Her card referred to a time in one of our sessions when she asked me why I thought so many things were falling into place.  It seemed to me it was because I had been willing to do some hard things I’d been avoiding.

I said, “Whenever I do something hard and scary, something BIG always happens.”

There it was . . . my truth . . . right there in black and white staring me in the face. Read More→

Structure Equals Freedom

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Structure equals freedom! 

Let that one soak in . . . Structure equals Freedom!

Many of us rail against this idea because we fear that structure will become our master, that all spontaneity will be lost and that we will be forced to be a robot-like Stepford wife. 

Yet we know that when we do what has to be done we are HAPPY!  Yes Happy! 

Happiness is the wonderful by-product of doing what needs to be done. 

So, how can we put some structures in place so that they don’t feel . . . well . . . too structured?

I’ve studied this for myself (I’m the queen  of developing structures and systems), so I’ve learned a few tips and had some eye-opening insights that have been very helpful to me and my clients. Read More→

Take Things from Impossible to Inevitable!

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“I dwell in possibility.”

Emily Dickenson

One of the most inspiring speakers I’ve ever heard (and I’ve seen a lot) was Glenn Morshower.  Glenn is a character actor whose face you would likely recognize but not know his name.  On television (West Wing, 24, etc.) and in movies (Transformers, Xmen, Moneyball) Glenn typically plays serious, hard-assed characters.  Wow, was I shocked when I heard him speak!  He is one of the funniest and most profound speakers I have ever experienced. (and that’s sayin’ a lot because I’ve heard tons of ‘em)

This is one of the best things he shared with us . . . and I share it with you.

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Kvetch Three Times . . . Then Let it GO Already!

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“If you have time to whine and complain about something, then you have time to do something about it.”

~Anthony J. D’Angelo

 

Have you ever had something happen that you are unhappy about?  (Of course you have!)  But then you tell your story over and over to anyone who will listen, reliving this horrible thing and perpetuating the cycle.

To begin the change process you have to begin by letting go of your stories. 

One of the most helpful tips I’ve heard comes from Caroline Myss, spiritual healer and author.  She encourages people to give a limited amount of air time to their stories.  When I say stories here I’m referring to things that happen like.  “I got cheated by that store clerk…again!” or “There goes another relationship…I seem to attract such losers.” 

When negative things happen to us she recommends we share it with others three times then put it to rest.  Tell “it” three times then LET IT GO.

Why is this so important? 

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Breaking Out of Your Velvet Rut

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“Nothing happens until you decide.” 

Oprah

Why do we procrastinate?  Why do we continuously put things off and stay snug as a bug in a rug in our comfy Velvet Rut?  (Your Velvet Rut is that place of inaction that you tell yourself is comfortable but it really holds you back.)

Joseph Ferrari, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at De Paul University in Chicago has identified that there are 3 different kinds of procrastinators, each with a different motivation.

He said there are the Thrill Seekers, those who love the adrenaline rush they get by waiting to the last minute.  It’s a sort of high that they crave. 

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Work/Life Balance: Be Happy

I’m sure you’ve heard someone refer to the concept of “Work/Life Balance.” You may have even used the phrase yourself a time or two.

But what does it really mean?

Often, the way we use it in our culture, it really doesn’t mean anything. The concept is still exceptionally important, no matter how you say it.

60s counterculture personality and writer Paul Krassner was quoted in a 1968 issue of Time Magazine saying, “Some anthropologist said that one definition of happiness is to have as little gap as possible between your work and your play.” 

If any one portion of our lives becomes too out of balance with the others that is when we start to feel stress and panic. That is when we stop being happy and start freaking out just a little.

So how can we (as employees or business owners or busy parents or any number of other definitions) create a better work/life balance for ourselves? There are a few things we can do to change our lives today. They may not always be easy but your happiness and wellbeing is always worth it.

  1. Have a Support System. No man or woman is an island. It is nearly impossible to have your cake and eat it too if it is just you and a fork. You’ll end up with a hell of a stomach ache if you try to do things that way. Allow yourself to rely on your friends and family for support.
  2. Manage Your Time. Last week, I shared some time management hacks that could help you reclaim your day. This is extremely important for not getting overwhelmed or finding yourself working through evenings and weekend just to get things done. Don’t forget to say “No” once in a while. You can’t be all things to all people.  
  3. Nurture Yourself. That day at the spa? It isn’t a luxury, it is a necessity! You need to step away and recharge your batteries. I can’t stress that enough. It is absolutely imperative for the human body to take breaks. Do whatever makes you happiest; go for a hike, head to the bar, or enjoy a movie with friends.
  4. Avoid Negativity. I am not only talking about other people who bring their negativity to the table. I’m also talking to you. Your inner voice who says you can’t do something or that the project is simply impossible. You don’t have to live in a fairy tale world and you can be realistic about things, but negativity is the single biggest soul crusher in your life.

Are you craving a better work/life balance? Do you need some extra help finding ways to bring happiness in your life? You’re in luck! That is what I do best so contact me today!